Is it love, or is it a transaction?

Not recognizing the difference between love and commerce can make connection difficult.


Love is uplifting and freeing.


Love gives, serves, shares and supports. It wants what's best for another.

Love does this without expectation.


As opposed to, for example, “I’ll validate you if you provide sex, money, status, etc. If you don’t give me what I want, I’ll withdraw affection.” Or “I’ll use you to fill this space until something better comes along.” It’s not about who the other person is, but rather what they provide.


Most of us have, at some point, been used. Or used someone. Both scenarios leave you empty.


In healthy connections, giving and receiving happens from both sides. Both parties are supported and supportive.


I invite you to observe these three things:


  1. What do you notice about love vs transactional relationships?

  2. Do you approach relationships from love or as transactions?

  3. Do others approach relationships with you from love or as transactions?


I’d love to hear from you. Share your thoughts in the comments below.