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Is it TKN?

Here are four questions: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? (TKN) Does it improve upon the silence?

If the answer to any of these questions is no, it’s probably gossip.

Gossip not only damages those who are being talked about, it hurts the ones who are doing the talking. The ego mind thrives on drama and controversy. To build itself up, it looks for things to judge and oppose. But when you’re in a state of judgment or opposition your light is not shining. You’re closed off. Not open to the universe’s good. In the dark.

I totally know I’m preaching to the choir here. And there are times when, to release a negative situation, it helps to talk about it. Whether or not the talk is gossip is a matter of whether the intention is to resolve the situation or to disparage something or someone.

It can be easy to fall into gossip, especially when people around you are engaging in it. It can be tempting to indulge the brain’s negativity bias, get sucked in and feel the momentary adrenaline rush that ultimately disconnects you from your good.


· Step back.

· Notice what’s going on.

· Take a breath.

· Stay on a higher frequency and remain open to the light.

· Shift the focus, either within yourself or out loud, depending on the situation, to truth and kindness. Find something good to say, even if you only say it to yourself.

As you shine your light, you may help others find theirs. Or maybe not. The only one you can ever manage is you. No matter what, shining your light benefits you and the world.


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